“People grow when they are loved well. If you want to help others heal, love them without an agenda.” - Mike McHargue

We all are in a constant ebb and flow of growth and change, which makes truly loving someone one of the hardest experiences you are called to do. You believe the growth of others will come about quicker if your emotions are combined with the intention to help them change. However, to love well requires no hidden conditions but to accept the other person as they are rather than who you desire them to be. In releasing someone from the conditions you once placed on your affection, you allow them the support and freedom to heal. When you become detached from the other person’s growth, you too are freed and are given the opportunity to love more deeply. It is a beautiful thing when people’s growth is strengthened by love and not your agenda for how you think it should look like.


How do you show affection? Eliminate conditions about what, when, or how you love and watch the beauty of growth.