Read This Now to Illuminate Your Life

Your life isn’t Instagram. You don’t need likes or affirmation to know that your life is beautiful. No one’s words or lack thereof can take away the fact that you have purpose beyond posing with your hand on your hip because it makes your arms look slimmer. You have talent that is worth searching for. Once you find that gift, you must be compelled to share it with the world. You will find that it is too extraordinary to fit in an Instagram photo sized square.

Your life isn’t a selfie. Not everyone has the capacity to see your good side. People will adopt opinions about you no matter how perfectly you position your hand to capture yourself from a good angle. Therefore, you hold onto your truth, the knowledge of your brilliance. You should never value the sentiments of others more than you respect your own ability to be kind and patient with yourself. You know that it is what will matter when people zoom to assess if your butt is fake or your abs are photoshopped.

Your life doesn't need a Valencia filter. You embrace the nuances that life gives off when you can strip it down to the realest form; even if it shows just how pale you really are without your summer tan. The unintentional shading allows the darkness to collide with the light in such a way that you are reminded of the fragile balance that exists between the extremes. A harmony so extraordinary that you feel liberated when brought into the golden light after a period of darkness. You grasp onto the lighting of your #nofilter life because it revealed just how important it is to stop for a moment and be present with your reality of feeling lost or stagnant because when everything is finally illuminated, it will be nothing short of radiant.

IPhones may be the Reason You Cannot Commit

Apple should be to blame for my commitment issues. The company keeps putting out new, state of the art models every few months, making me question my decision to buy a phone now when the Iphone 7s plus squared will be out in one short year? It seems in many respects that this generation has come to treat others like we treat Iphones. We have become fixated on the possibility of something better coming along. Why make a decision now, when we could have the bigger and better somewhere down the road?

The IPhone syndrome comes about when you take the “we’re just talking” route with people. That phrase of “we’re just talking” was popularized for the sole fact that people prefer to be entertained by someone than commit to them. You could “talk” to someone for months and send cute “good morning” texts every day but never really dive into the decision to date them. Just admit that you too have been plagued just like me. We are afflicted by indecision, by the possibility that in choosing we may be settling for something less.

The difference between settling and committing is simply the choice to be present. If you spent less effort chasing what seems to be more impressive, then it would be easier to understand if your decision is what is fitting for you. By fearfully warding off commitment with a ten yard stick, you may be overlooking the fact that what you have could be better than what is outwardly appealing. That the person you are “talking” to is actually really awesome and i could be the right choice, if you put down your stick for a second and embrace what is happening right now.

Indecision to a certain degree is a way to discern what is right. However, we can no longer use others as a playing ground for our indecision. We cannot forfeit being in the moment because the illusion that the bigger and better may be around the corner. We may not always be able to make a decision but we can actively choose to remain open to what life is offering us. We can buy the IPhone 6s because it is the best decision for us now and now is the best thing to commit to.