IPhones may be the Reason You Cannot Commit

Apple should be to blame for my commitment issues. The company keeps putting out new, state of the art models every few months, making me question my decision to buy a phone now when the Iphone 7s plus squared will be out in one short year? It seems in many respects that this generation has come to treat others like we treat Iphones. We have become fixated on the possibility of something better coming along. Why make a decision now, when we could have the bigger and better somewhere down the road?

The IPhone syndrome comes about when you take the “we’re just talking” route with people. That phrase of “we’re just talking” was popularized for the sole fact that people prefer to be entertained by someone than commit to them. You could “talk” to someone for months and send cute “good morning” texts every day but never really dive into the decision to date them. Just admit that you too have been plagued just like me. We are afflicted by indecision, by the possibility that in choosing we may be settling for something less.

The difference between settling and committing is simply the choice to be present. If you spent less effort chasing what seems to be more impressive, then it would be easier to understand if your decision is what is fitting for you. By fearfully warding off commitment with a ten yard stick, you may be overlooking the fact that what you have could be better than what is outwardly appealing. That the person you are “talking” to is actually really awesome and i could be the right choice, if you put down your stick for a second and embrace what is happening right now.

Indecision to a certain degree is a way to discern what is right. However, we can no longer use others as a playing ground for our indecision. We cannot forfeit being in the moment because the illusion that the bigger and better may be around the corner. We may not always be able to make a decision but we can actively choose to remain open to what life is offering us. We can buy the IPhone 6s because it is the best decision for us now and now is the best thing to commit to.

How to be Interesting When You Have Mediocre Seflies

You are out in the world and come upon a stranger. Before you strike up a conversation, you go through all the possible awkward situations that could occur the moment you open your mouth.

This forces me to question if showing genuine interest in others has become a lost art.

Our culture values superiority and uniqueness. Anyone who becomes Instafamous is glorified and selfie books can sell millions of copies. In our minds that is what makes a person distinguished and liked by others. While those are not terrible qualities, over time, we have become fixated with the idea of showing others that we are special. Therefore, it is not surprising that we cannot enjoy a conversation without wondering how it will affect us.

We talk and think about ourselves too damn much. We desire others’ affirmation that we are interesting because that it is desirable and praised.

If you truly want to be interesting, be interested.

We must shift our perspective when reaching out to others. Dive wholeheartedly into someone else’s beautiful story. Everyone has one but few are given the time to share theirs. Be it a stranger or a friend, we must be open to the possibility that listening and learning from others is a more powerful way to share our goodness. If you aspire to be unique, be genuine. Be the one person that is engrossed in someone else, without thinking of a response, without wondering if you have a story to tell, without trying to impress anyone, just listen.