You may have looked at that title and thought, “What a fricken morbid topic to be talking about when I’m just beginning to do my New Year’s resolutions!” Let’s be very honest with each other and just say that most resolutions will fail. We will find a way to laugh it off later in the year when we are trying to get a bikini body two weeks before summer starts. We will come up with excuses as to why our resolutions do not seem feasible and we will move them to next year and try again. Change is frustrating, especially when we put pressure on one moment to completely transform our lives. Oftentimes, it isn’t our excuses or the pressure that causes us to falter but rather the fact that we do not have the right goals, plan, or mindset to see the resolutions through.
Scratch your current resolution and try these ones!
Think about all of the goals you want this year. Some may want to shed pounds; others may want to find a new job, or to read more. I think those are all great goals but if you make a list of requirements to do more, will they stick?? Perhaps if we change the focus of our resolutions then we will be more apt to follow through with them. Instead of creating goals based on what you think you should demand from yourself this year, focus on LOVE. I know that was cheesy but let’s move past that because this could be revolutionary if we just gave it a chance. What if instead of requiring yourself to lose weight you said, “I want to honor myself everyday.” Honoring yourself can come about by filling your body with healthy things, checking in with how your body feels, and giving yourself time to play and exercise. Or instead of finding a new job you say, “I want to follow my passion and happiness every day.” Maybe then you would be more apt to dedicate time to actively understanding what brings you joy and the best way to go about incorporating that into you career. If we changed the rhetoric on our goals, we will have a greater chance at achieving them because they are supported by love and genuine interest in being better to ourselves rather than demand.
Take your goal one bite at a time
Even with this new, fancy resolution, we cannot produce change without a plan. How do we execute the goals themselves? We can break them down into bite-sized actions. Let’s go back to “honoring ourselves every day”. Some smaller subactions of that would be to research what a healthy lunch looks like, going to the grocery store every week, and making your healthy lunches to take to work every day. That seems more manageable than only eating salads for the rest of your life because you think that is the only way to eat healthier. Trust me, the salad binge will not work in the long run. Not only is flying to the extreme going to ruin the joy out of honoring yourself, but it will make change seem overwhelming.
The Frustration Game
Do not, I repeat DO NOT make a resolution that you wouldn’t want to dedicate time for. Most people overlook the fact that changing is difficult. If there is not fervent desire to better yourself or motivation behind your given goal, then you can easily fall into the frustration game. It will come in the moment when you want to stop. Frustration can lead to procrastination, which ultimately makes you want to abandon your progress and forfeit the goal altogether. In this moment, instead of beating yourself up, reconnect with your original, loving intention. There is where you will find the motivation to keep moving forward.
Do not go one more year without living a more joyful, loving life!! How will you change up your resolutions in 2016?