“You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.” - Mahatma Gandhi
There is inevitability in our contact with others. It is without a doubt that the people we connect with will make assessments of who we are. They will attempt to piece together the information they know and have observed and it is to be expected that they will create an opinion about us through the lens of their own experiences. We perceive these judgments and at times, like lighting a match, they strike an intense fire in who we are. We transition in receiving one’s opinions as insults when they expose us to the truth of our own fears and self-limiting beliefs. It is not their judgment that causes us so much angst but rather that their words force us to evaluate the places that still require growth. Therefore, the manner in which we respond to the opinions of others, at times in all of their negativity, is the true reflection of our own self-view. When we are able to hear their judgments and understand them without offense is when we truly view ourselves with grace and acceptance.
Are others’ opinions revealing the difficult self-growth that you aware of yet refuse to acknowledge? If so, the immunity to insults will always come from within.